The first couple of days revolved entirely around helping DH with every task. Getting a drink, taking tablets, having a shower, getting up, sitting down, eating.... I adapted a second tee shirt, bought some more bits (Amazon Prime has been fabulous).
As the morphine has worn off, the pain has increased. I've kept a detailed record of all the medications.
Gradually, DH has been able to do more and more for himself, and he's been amazing. Much better than I suspect I would have been.
We've got a routine now for the morning, which includes showering us both, medicating DH and medicating the cats, having breakfast and getting ready for the rest of the day.
We've been twice now to have the wound checked and the dressing changed.
I saw a self-hoist thing for sale on Gumtree, not too far away. It was a bit of a bargain, so we decided to get it. I went out yesterday, calling in at Costco on the way home.
The hoist is really designed for someone who can use both arms to pull themselves up, not someone who can only use one arm. It took some time to try and get the optimum position for it, and we have to have it angled to compensate. It's hard work for DH, probably harder work than using me to pull against, but it gives him a bit more independence.
He's gradually become more coherent, and he now seems fairly normal in that regard. . He's much more mobile (once he's up). The way he is now is the way I had expected him to be when he was discharged.
We think he has broken a rib, the pain when he coughs is too intense to just be sore muscles.